From My Inbox

From My Inbox

Dear John: I want to propose to my girlfriend. We met about a week ago and I love her so much. Do you think I should trigger the option to sign her from girlfriend to wifey? - Confused in Lokoja.

 

Dear Confused: The one week loan spell is probably not sufficient time to upgrade anyone from a loan deal to a permanent lifetime signing. I’d suggest you wait until her second season of a two-year girlfriend spell. But hey, what do I know? Some club managers have won the league title in their first season. If you feel that you absolutely want to share the rest of your life with her, then follow your heart. Drop subtle hints about it and get her vibes. If the signals are positive, set sail upon a voyage of love. We can all learn from your folly if you run into troubled waters.

Face Your Problems Squarely

Face Your Problems Squarely

 

I was declared missing once. For a couple of hours. I was probably about 6 years old. My mother had the neighborhood looking for me while I was sound asleep behind a door in the house. 

 

I don't like being yelled at. When I heard she was terribly upset that I hadn't carried out an assigned chore, I went and hid behind the open door of the bathroom. In hind-sight, a wrong decision.

 

I have no idea how long I stood behind that door. Dark came. I was tired. I slept off. And things went downhill from there.

 

My mother became worried when dark descended and I did not show up. She went through a gamut of emotions. From anger, self-recrimination, which piled on; anxiety and finally, an apology to me. I never heard any of it. I was spending an uncomfortable, unplanned night behind the door. 

 

I got plenty of people worried and they were all looking for me. My dad finally walked into the bathroom, saw the boy everyone was looking for sleeping behind the door. He was thoroughly relieved. He woke me up and I had no immediate recollection what the fuss was about. My dad took me to bed. He also took back the missing person complaint he had filed at the police station. 

 

The next day, I was embarrassed when neighbors and friends kept asking where I went. Took a while to make things right. It's best to face your problems squarely and find solutions rather than hiding behind excuses or an open door.